Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me.
He's still very good looking, charming and not at all sleezy. An older guy will be more like a father figure, which girls have less and less these days, makes them feel wanted and loved, not just "for the moment". If you are happy being with him, don't let anyone talk you out of it.
It doesn’t help that women have been wired for centuries to equate their worth with youth and beauty. “It is often the limiting thoughts a woman has absorbed that can create problems for the couple,” says Winter.
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
Although i have no problem with the huge age gap i'm worried about what my friends and family will say. If it doesn't work out, that's ok too, but it should be your decision, not someone else's opinion telling you too.
I want things to get serious but i'm worried how they will take it.