“Now more than ever we need to be good and kind to each other and not judge each other,” she adds.“And just because you have the same taste in men, we don’t hold that against each other.” That’s a pretty progressive point of view — and not necessarily one exclusive to celebs who move in A-list social circles.“You can try to handle it like an adult, being open and honest – but you will go down a notch on the friendship ladder,” agrees Nana Wereko-Brobby, director of Social Concierge, a London dating service.Nana points to the story of her friend Katie, a 27-year-old Londoner who lost a friendship when an ex got involved. Tell him what his friendship means to you,” suggests Irene La Cota, president of dating agency It's Just Lunch International.This is essential in sustaining your friendship by keeping continuous trust and honesty between you two.With communicating, you’re considering their feelings and making sure nothing is too awkward between the both of you.Particularly if you were in a long-term relationship with her,” he says. If it's just an acquaintance from work, and he dated a woman you like, they broke up, then there is no reason why you couldn't date her,” says Sebastian Callow, a London-based dating coach for men. Experts recommend considering how long your friend and his ex dated (anything over six months is tricky territory as the emotional ties tend to be stronger); how old you are (one expert suggested that in our twenties, perceived slights carry more weight than when we're older and “more realistic”); why you're interested (do you lack the self confidence to approach a stranger?
First things first, you need to recognise that some exes are just seriously off limits.
Make sure you're thinking with your head and not your crotch.
Warning: They may have said it’s fine when it’s really NOT FINE.
There are key factors to consider when pursuing an ex.
For one, it’s vital to communicate with your best friend about your interests in the ex.