The "alpha male," in case you do not know, is the "top dog" in a dog pack (or the "top animal" in any group of animals, like the "top monkey" in a monkey troop). That name is: "Alpha wanna-be." And if you've fallen into the trap of becoming an "alpha wanna-be," you can be assured of one thing: The REAL "alpha males" -- the ones who ARE getting the women you desire -- are LAUGHING at you.
According to biologists, the alpha male gets "priority access to limited resources." That means he gets the best food. If you want to know WHY the real "alpha males" would laugh at your attempts to become "alpha" -- and how the REAL "alpha Men" got to the "top of the heap," and thus get the girls -- then you'll want to read the rest of this article right now.
However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.
“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.
TRYING to be the "alpha male" -- that is, pushing other guys around, acting tough, and worrying a lot about how "alpha" you are -- actually makes you LESS "alpha." That's right -- being an "alpha wanna-be" actually makes you LESS alpha, and LESS attractive.
This is an important point, and we want you to really get it, so let us put it another way, to make it absolutely clear: When you worry about competing against other men -- that is, how "alpha" you are -- you actually make yourself LESS "alpha." You make yourself LOSE the competition. The man who comes up "out of nowhere" and walks off with that hot woman, while everyone else is competing and showing off and trying to look tough, is NOT caught up in "trying to be 'alpha'." Because he's not part of the competition, he can simply concentrate on being his best, most romantic self.
Technically speaking, pertains to a person's relative access to resources and mates, which is proportionate to the negative costs (the damage) he can inflict on another individual.
In keeping with our evolutionary past, Bambacorta and Ketelaar wondered if dominant men still manage to preclude subordinate men from mating.
He can "bypass" the other men who are caught up in the hopeless task of "out alpha-ing" each other.
Do women have it a lot easier than men, and do hot people in general have it the easiest? Millward created 10 fake OKCupid profiles with similar sounding usernames, with the same written profile, personal stats, level of education, etc. Each account had a different photo of a man or woman of varying attractiveness.
You have far more access to singles than ever before. Which means that there’s also far more COMPETITION.
Especially when it comes to men trying to write to women.