LR, not every first relationship after divorce is a rebound.You are right when you you say that a rebound is when we are trying to prove to ourselves that we are ok, or when we are using the relationship to cover up all the hurt, pain, and loneliness.Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was.In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points.Romantic relationship dissolution is often not easy, especially after two people walked a journey together. To avoid facing the feelings of loss, grief, and/or rejection, one might be tempted to “rebound”, and jump right into another intimate association. You’re dating someone new, and despite some positive experiences, you know that, deep down, your partner is “mister/miss right now” rather than “mister/miss right”. On The Rebound: Focusing On Someone New Helps Anxiously Attached Individuals Let Go Of Ex-Partners. While one can make a case that there’s nothing inherently wrong with short-term relationships between adults, to enter into one immediately after a break-up is to increase emotional and physical vulnerability, for the rebounding person and/or the new partner. You Like the Relationship for the Attention Sometimes, a person on the rebound will deliberately seek out a new partner who makes a strong effort at courtship, and showers the rebounding individual with interest and affection.
Getting Involved with Someone Who’s Not a Serious Prospect This is the classic “one night stand”, or “one-week stand”, or “six-month stand” scenario.
Researchers Brumbaugh and Fraley define rebound relationship as: “A relationship that is initiated shortly after a romantic breakup—before the feelings about the former relationship have been resolved.”(1) Studies indicate that while some rebound relationships can be successful, others may be detrimental and harmful, both to the rebounding person and the new partner.(2)(3)(4)(5) Possible negative dynamics and consequences of an unhealthy rebound relationship may include: Below are seven signs you may be in an unhealthy rebound relationship, with references to my book (click on title): “How to Get Over a Breakup – Keys to Healing and Happiness Again”.
Although this article is intended for the benefit of both the rebound individual and the new partner, the information below will focus on the experience of the rebounding person.
Because sooner or later it will catch up with her.’” It has caught up with me.
When my three years ago, I slipped into survival mode: I jutted my jaw, made sure the kids and my business and the money and the divorce and the house were all in order.