Yet even without an official ‘boyfriend’ there are normally several text conversations with potential beaus buzzing away on my phone.I also tend to have a few guys on a low-level stalk on Facebook, and there’s always that frisson of excitement when an attractive man retweets one of my ‘LOLz-ier’ status updates. I wasn’t the only one of my girlfriends to leave early that night.The Daily Telegraph quotes one counselor as suggesting that “the lines of what constitutes a relationship are now completely blurred….Young people today are brilliantly liberated because they have so much freedom, but also incredibly oppressed because that means they have to find their own rules and they’re confused.” Even the prior generation, which was steeped in sexual freedom, is dumbfounded by current attitudes.We’d made vague plans to see each other that night. Like me, you are probably so used to keeping your options open – and not deciding what you’re doing on a Friday night until about 6.59pm that evening – that the idea of ‘dating’ seems pretty foreign. Increasingly, we ‘hang out’ – and not necessarily as a twosome. The social psychologist Ben Voyer warns that while texting and online messaging are perceived to be easier than face-to-face contact or a telephone conversation, in the medium to long term they can make things more difficult. Your guess is as good as mine.) ‘Face-to-face contact is much richer.Actually phone someone up to ask them out and agree on a date at some point in the future and put it in my diary? We have more visual and audio cues to help us form an impression of someone.’ Of course endless texting will never offer the same insight into someone’s personality as even a single face-to-face conversation.
Men were considered more attractive when they looked genuine, extraverted, and feminine, but not overly warm or kind.
Strange then, I realised recently, that I have rarely been properly on my own.
I haven’t lived with a boyfriend, introduced anyone to my parents, or been on a mini-break.
suggest that what was already a veritable crisis may now be more-aptly described as apocalyptic.
For the (fortunately) uninitiated, I offer a few of the tamer examples (caution, some of the material is What’s The Core Problem? At the core, the human person and sexuality have been degraded and devalued to such an extent that many young people are simply neither surprised nor outwardly chagrined at the objectification and anonymity of the “dating” scene: “We don’t know what the girls are like….