And there's nothing to be gained by trying to meet someone you can't satisfy or that would be inappropriate for you.
It all comes down to the kind of person you want to meet.
Funnily enough most dominant women are looking for individuals.
And while she may want to know how you look in petticoats she probably wants a guy who is a man.
That I've tended to get along with dominant women online is the only qualification I can claim for the following. Will pleasing another, serving her satisfy you deeply, make you happy? Or is it really having your shopping list of tortures and humiliations filled that matters most to you? But you need to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with the people you approach online.
Poor fellow, you've emailed countless Dommes and none of them write back. You've expressed your willingness to do "anything." What more could they ask? While some Dommes are only looking for lifestyle slaves others seek play partners.