23, 2009, on the shores of Lake Winnipesaukee in New Hampshire. *** Soon after my bar mitzvah, just as I was discovering my interest in the opposite sex, I began to be bombarded with information about intermarriage—about how one in every two Jewish people would marry a non-Jew and how more than half of the children of those unions would not be raised Jewish.
But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well.
In several places in the Jewish Bible, there are relations which appear to be intermarriages - for example, King David is described as marrying the daughter of the king of Geshur, Christine Hayes compares the Deuteronomic and Ezran viewpoints on intermarriage, and discusses in terms of ritual impurity and the fear of profaning the seed of Israel.
First and foremost, Hayes holds that the fear of profaning the seed of Israel was the underlying rationale for the ban in exogamous marriage, rather than the ritual impurity of Gentiles in general.
Now he has a non-Jewish girlfriend and they are getting serious. The best solution is to raise serious doubts that this will work long-term.
He has the support of all her friends who are not Jewish. My wife says that if we are not careful we will lose him as a son, and that I should go easy on my remarks and actions. Some ideas: 1) Get them to discuss the topic of Jesus.
Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding.
My wife, who is a rabbi, generally does not officiate at interfaith weddings.
She also argues that the regulations on intermarriage in the times of Ezra were different from the restrictions on intermarriage according to the book of Deuteronomy.
For example, the Ezra ban on intermarriage was different in that it was 1) Universal in scope, and 2) had the rationale that intermarriage was the profanation of the holy seed of Israel.
He is the last Jewish male in our family, since my one and only cousin is a female and I am an only child.
If he has no Jewish sons, then our family line will die.