"I think Sara showed signs of anxiety in more extroverted ways, like asthma and hypochondria, after the divorce," Tegan writes. I'm glad they made us, but living apart was best for us all.
"I was very extroverted with my anxiety as well but it came as a need to please everyone. I believe divorce is normal and just part of what happens when two people fall out of love. That being said, when you're 4 it feels very personal and very life-shattering.
Although the Quins hail from Canada, where same-sex marriage has been legal since 2005, they both live in the States--meaning they have a stake in, and an opinion on, the two potentially landmark cases currently facing the Supreme Court. Sara is a New York resident, where gay marriage is legal, but Tegan lives in Los Angeles, where for the moment at least, it's not. We decided we could marry those two things together. And we really wanted something that played with the idea of gender and identity. When we started, we really didn't want to wear any. This morning I was talking to a guy I work out with who used to be the drummer in Godsmack. My attitude used to be if a human being doesn't play every note, people would think we're no good and it would devalue the music. When you're just alone with your cat all of a sudden, it could get pretty fucked up. Tegan was sending, like, 10,000 pictures of K-pop bands with a very modern, futuristic look, and then we talked about the bands and personas of the Seventies and Eighties like Bowie and Siouxsie and the Banshees. But we were talking about how Tegan and I were in the process of hiring backing musicians for the live shows and how I felt about backing tracks.When I brought that one in, I thought it would be scrapped. It was the first time in my life that I'd ever lived without Tegan. Another song that deals with relationship insecurities and feeling helpless is "Hang On to the Night." What inspired that? I'm in my mid thirties, and I'm starting to think about mortality a lot. When he stripped back the demo, I realized it had a really strong arrangement and a strong melody, and the lyrics were great. I made friends and started a romantic relationship. We've lost a lot of people in the last few years.